Thoughts on true love

One reason I hate Valentine's Day is because it seems to focus more on the shallow, commercial idea of romance and/or sex than true love.
Take romantic stories, for example. Often, the couple consists of a passive damsel in distress and a handsome, over-protective guy. There is often something creepy about their relationship, whether it's kissing a strange girl while she's asleep or stalking people. The two are more focused on a possible relationship with the other person than they are on prioritizing the other person's well-being. I mean, why did the prince kiss Sleeping Beauty? Because she was beautiful, and it seemed like the thing to do. The prince most likely didn't know she was going to wake up, so he wasn't trying to save her life or anything.
And let's not forget about the jealousy a character may feel if their love interest seems to be in love with someone else. A character may try to make a couple break up so they can be with the person they like. Look, in true love, the priority is the happiness of the other person. Jealousy is selfish. Besides, people deserve a significant other who loves them (if they choose to have a romantic relationship).
Worse, many fictional relationships glamorized by the media are considered abusive. Look at Edward Cullen: he stalks Bella and tries to control her decisions. And yet Bella is dependent of him. Many romantic stories send the message that it is healthy for a woman to be dependent of a man and that it's okay for a man to abuse a woman, so long as he also protects her (which actually sounds like a good metaphor for the government, now that I think about it, but that's another story). Even worse, the male character may completely disregard his love interest's feelings, coerce her into doing things she doesn't want to do, and he may even rape her. These are very damaging messages.
As Olaf puts it, "love is putting someone else's needs before yours." Olaf may not have known that warm weather would melt him, but he understands love way better than most people who write romance novels or plots for romantic movies. Love doesn't have to be about two people in a romantic relationship. Some of my favorite stories about love are about platonic and familial relationships, and often in the romantic stories, the characters may not even end up together because one of them was willing to give up the possibility of a romantic relationship in order for the other's well-being.
I may be cynical about romance as most people think of it, but true love is pretty darn awesome.