Feminism, independence, and security

This isn't my most well-organized post, but I feel it's very important. With sexism in our society and statism in our government, I have noticed many similarities between the two:

1. One group or individual considers another inferior.
2. The "superior" group/individual uses force to get the "inferior" group/individual to obey them, and the "superior" always has the final say in what happens.
3. The "superior" may help the "inferior," but they are condescending in what may otherwise be a wonderful act of service. For example, men might constantly ask women if they need help for no reason whatsoever. Or the government may start programs with the implication that people are stupid.
4. The "superior" will see the "inferior" as a collective group, rather than one or multiple unique individuals. Gender-based stereotypes and prescribed gender roles do not take individual circumstances into consideration, and nor do large government programs.
5. The "superior" will give the "inferior" a sense of false security. A woman may stay in a terrible situation (abusive relationships, human trafficking, etc) because she is afraid of losing money, shelter, and/or other resources if she tries to escape. Sounds kind of like the "without the government, who would do this?" thing (no, I am not an anarchist, but the implication that is made when that is said is that government is the only way to have the privileges you enjoy). If one gives up their rights (or someone else's rights) for security, they will lose both.
6. The "superior" will invade the privacy of the "inferior." It's a total shock to me that Edward Cullen and Christian Grey aren't part of the NSA (in fact, I believe Edward Snowden said something about NSA agents spying on people they either have or had romantic relationships with).

I find it strange that so many feminists are complaining about how women in the media always need men to save them, but they act as if women are dependent on policies usually created by men. Here's the thing, though: Everyone needs help sometimes. Some people need help frequently. It does not mean they're weak or that they're being oppressed or whatnot. It is when the helper is abusive when it becomes a problem.

P.S. Here's a Julie Borowski video that's kind of related: